For what it´s worth

Después de mi cena familiar (en donde hubo carne hasta para tirar para arriba) y de intercambiar regalos (que más que intercambio termino siendo un evento unidireccional, dado a mi limitada economía)... hice lo que siempre hago cuando no tengo nada mejor que hacer... darle click a Stumble! el cual me llevo a una página donde hablaba de los 21 hábitos de las personas felices. Generalmente no leo este tipo de cosas porque son super cliché, pero por la época en la que estamos en la que uno se llena de buenas vibras, o al menos hace el intento... me aventuré a pegarle una leída a los puntos a tratar... y para mi no sorpresa me encontré lo que esperaba, salvo una que otra diferencia. Entonces decidí leer cada una de las explicacioncillas.

No es nada que uno no sepa, y el que lo escribió lejos está de ser un erudito, pero me llamo mucho la atención que toca TODOS los puntos que de una u otra manera hemos hablado aquí en el blog o en vivo... cuando íbamos juntos en el carro hacia algún lugar, frente a un café/té o bien sentados en el sillón de alguna sala.

Estos son los 21 hábitos que señala el autor con su respectiva habladilla:

1. Appreciate Life

Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. Choose Friends Wisely

Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.

3. Be Considerate

Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.

4. Learn Continuously

Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.

5. Creative Problem Solving

Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.

6. Do What They Love

Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.

7. Enjoy Life

Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.

8. Laugh

Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)

9. Forgive

Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.

10. Gratitude

Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.

11. Invest in Relationships

Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.

12. Keep Their Word

Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.

13. Meditate

Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.

14. Mind Their Own Business

Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.

15. Optimism

See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.

16. Love Unconditionally

Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.

17. Persistence

Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.

18. Be Proactive

Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.

19. Self Care

Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.

20. Self Confidence

Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.

21. Take Responsibility

Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake.

Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.

Ahora les cuento cuales fueron mis preferidas, y que en lo personal creo son pilares en mi vida:

1. Appreciate Life: tenemos tanto porque estar agradecidos, que tenemos que dejar de quejarnos por lo que no tenemos, o por las oportunidades que no se nos han presentado... vivamos cada momento al máximo... y trabajemos para lograr aquello que queremos

2. Choose Friends Wisely: no hay mucho que decir en esta... he topado con la suerte de tener los mismos amigos desde hace casi 15 años... tener relaciones basadas en la confianza y la lealtad... y creo que esto es una muy buena señal. Han sido muy pocos los que se han ido o alejado y muchos los que han llegado... y lo que me fascina de esto es que la gente buena llama a la gente buena... por ende es increíble como los amigos de mis amigos terminan siendo mis amigos.

3. Learn Continuously: Bielorrusia, su capital y su deporte oficial son un muy buen ejemplo de esto jajaja


4. Do What They Love: no importa que tan raro sea lo que queramos hacer en nuestras vidas o si lo que queremos hacer es tan poco creativo como irnos a meter a un hospital a hacer guardias de 36 horas... si es eso lo que queremos luchemos por eso... no nos limitemos... persigamos nuestros sueños, pero por ningún motivo quiero que alguno de mis amigos (esos q sabiamente escogí) en unos años no esté haciendo lo que lo haga feliz y lo llene de satisfacción... quizás en algún momento tengamos que pasar por circunstancias que no nos hagan del todo felices, pero no importa siempre y cuando esto sea un escalón hacia nuestro sueño.

5. Forgive: las malas vibras pesan tanto que es mejor dejar ir... y que mejor manera que perdonando

6. Mind Their Own Business: dejemos los chismes de lado... no aportan nada a nuestras vidas y en ocasiones hasta pueden meternos en situaciones que no queremos. Preocupémonos por nuestros asuntos, ya suficiente tenemos con eso.

7. Persistence: soy tauro... los astros me quisieron terca!! pero definitivamente en la mayoría de los casos es una virtud... aunque he tenido que aprender a renunciar a lo que no es para mi.


8. Self Care: a comer sano, hacer actividad física al menos 3 veces por semana y a descansar... Orden del médico... ;0) ( en 1 año puedo decir eso con toda propiedad!! jajaja)

Me parece una buena manera de hacernos un auto examen para este año que empieza... Quizás pequeños cambios en nuestras vidas pueden evolucionar en grandes cosas. Ahí se lo dejen para que lo mediten...

Les deseo lo mejor de lo mejor este año 2011... y estoy infinitamente agradecida por tenerlos en mi vida...

PS: el titulo de la entrada es el nombre de una canción (te lo dedico Muri jajaja) de Buffalo Springfield...